✦ Incompleteness Series
The utter feeling of incomplete seems to be forever looming.
I once thought that once I had my perfect baby girl, life would feel full circle. That somehow motherhood would tie together the loose threads and anchor me in a wholeness I had been chasing. And yet, even with the joy and love I now carry, there’s still a quiet echo inside me. A reminder that something feels…missing.
One would think this ache would fade with time, but instead, it has woven itself into my days. It has become almost normal.
Normalization of incompleteness.
It sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it?
Are We All Functioning Incomplete?
Through conversations with peers, I’ve realized I’m not alone. Many of us are moving through life with this quiet undercurrent — showing up, loving, giving, working — while carrying a feeling of not-quite-whole. It makes me wonder: What does it really mean to be complete?
By definition, complete means to make whole, perfect, having all the necessary parts. But when applied to life and self, it feels slippery. Are we ever complete? Or are we always reaching for something just beyond our grasp — another goal, another connection, another version of ourselves we have yet to meet?
There’s always something more. Something else we desire, need, or long for. That persistent question: Is this it? Is this all?
Reframing Wholeness
Maybe completeness isn’t a final destination.
Maybe it’s a practice, a fleeting moment that comes and goes like breath.
Sometimes, I glimpse it — in the twinkle of my daughter’s eyes, in the embrace of unconditional love, in a moment of stillness where nothing is missing. And then it shifts. The feeling of “not enough” returns.
But perhaps wholeness was never meant to be permanent. Perhaps it’s in the dance between longing and gratitude, desire and presence, where we actually learn ourselves.
Listen…
I am learning to hold both truths:
That I am incomplete.
And that in my incompleteness, I am still whole enough.
🌸 Maybe we were never meant to be perfectly complete. Maybe the cracks are where the light seeps in, reminding us that becoming is just as sacred as being.
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